One of my oldest and dearest friends has been trying unsuccessfully to get pregnant for the past three or so years. She, much like myself and many of my other girlfriends, just assumed that when she and her husband were ready to start their family it would just happen. Unfortunately due to several issues it turned out that “just happening” was not going to happen for them. The past few months have been a lot of back and forth with tests, needles, hormones, waiting, more tests, finding a better doctor, more needles and more waiting. The past few weeks she has been giving herself needles to get ready for the procedure that happened over the weekend. Yesterday she went through her IVF procedure and is now deemed “pregnant until proven otherwise” I have every extremity crossed (not just my fingers), and am sending prayers and positive energy out into the universe that this works for them. She has always been one of the most supportive, positive and encouraging people I know, and watching her go through this has been awful. There is nothing I can say or do that can really help, and I am sure that some of my well meaning comments over the past few years really haven’t helped. (and likely have been more insensitive than I knew at the time). Not having gone through this myself, and not really knowing other people going through this right now, it has been so hard to know what to say. And when you are broken hearted hearing someone try to cheer you up with cheesy platitudes probably is really annoying.
It likely sounds weird to say that someone deserves a baby, but this friend does. So anyone that reads this today please send a thought or a prayer out there because this just has to work. Her belief in the magic of Christmas and her general happy spirit have been so crushed lately and this is the only thing that can bring them back.